unmarried. a blog
"Tell the truth about what it's like to be human."
- Cheryl Strayed
Your second life begins...with the ring.
I stumbled upon a saying, "Your second life begins when you realize you only have one," which is also the title of a fantastic book by Parisian author, Raphaelle Giordano.
In the novel, main character Camille earns lotus charms varying in color as she achieves certain levels of success on her quest to a happier life. Each color symbolizes an elevation in rank.
For me, transforming the engagement ring into an independence ring is the indicator of my journey. By removing the diamond, which will later be gifted to my daughter in a different form of jewelry, and replacing it with onyx (black = the highest achievement), the ring will be worn on my right hand, my dominant hand, as a reminder of the hard decisions I had to make in order to regain my self.
If you're here reading this because you are going through a similar situation, ask yourself what thing could represent your journey. If not an object, then maybe a word...